Im writing this page to elaborate on how the egg donor of my lovely children has mentally abused my family
from my parents to my children. I will go into some depth and may get a little mean about how I feel.
First I need to give a little background for a refresher. I met the egg donor(her
name is Shawna, but I will refer to her only as the egg donor) through a friend at school when I was 15 and she
was 18. the first time I met her was nothing extrordinary. about 6 mos later I ran into her again through this same frined
and got to know her a little better.
She was living with her boyfriend at the time and had been living with him since she was 14 years old. He was several
years older than her and I believe its like 7-8 years older. When they met and she moved in with him in a very short
amount of time. through the time that they lived together she had 2-3 affairs on him and all of them with guys 5-10 years
older than her. I unknowingly would be affair number 4, I was the first one younger than her.
When the egg donor and I first started seeing each other I was 16. I was what one could call a typical 16
year old male. Sex was the only thing on my mind. She moved out of her boyfrineds house at the time and I would meet up with
her. The egg donor lived in her car for a while but then found someone that let her mooch off of them and she moved
in with them.
The egg donor became so controlling of me she would follow me to work and hang out in the lobby of the Burger
King I worked at my entire shift. When she was asked to leave she would go to the Shari's up the street so she could watch
and see when I left. I didnt not realize at the time how controlling this was because of my naive mentallity. Also because
of my shyness and low self esteem I did not want to hurt anyones feelings and had a hard time telling her to leave me alone.
My Parents tried to get me into counseling to improve my self esteem but the egg donor was there telling
me that she was always there for me and wanted to do what ever made me happy and that my parents were trying to stop our relationship.
I fell for the whole thing hook line and sinker and only attended about 2-3 counseling sessions.
Within 6 months of us meeting she became pregnant with my oldest son. I was 16 at the time and a junior
in high school. the egg donor and her family thought it was the greatest thing on earth as to my family once they found out
were very dissappointed but still suppotive as they could be. The egg donor moved into my family's house and lived in the
downstairs room during the later part of the pregnancy. My son was born midway through my senoir year of high school.
A few weeks after my son was born my mom and the egg donor got into an arguements. the egg donor would
leave my son in the room and go watch tv or go outside. my mom commented to her about this and the egg donor went off and
told my mom that it is her child and she would take care of him how she wanted. Both my parents told her she needed to leave.
Egg donor made arrangements for her and I to go live with her mom. I declined and wanted to stay with my
parents and finish school. this upset egg donor quite extensively. She moved in with her mom and her moms boyfriend in a little
house bear the projects. I went down about a week later to bring the egg donor the rest of her belongings at which time she
tried to convince me to stay with her again. I still declined and left.
Egg Donor moved in with her sister a few weeks later as her sister only lived a few miles away from my family
and I. after moving in with her sister she started showing up at my work again and waiting up the road at the nearby Sharis.
and in turn weaseled her way back into my life.
Shortly after doing all this she met her nextdoor neighbor and begin seeing him and I at the same time.
I found out about this and terminated the relationship with her. She did whatever she did with her nieghbor for approx 2-3
months. after which she came back to me and wanted me to take her back. I as a fool did.
I moved in with her shortly afterwards and we lived in her sisters trailer and her sister moved in with
her boyfriend. We lived in the trailer for a long period of time until she met another guy and began an another
affiar while I was working and she was not. I left her and moved in with my parents for a short time, I took this oppurtunity
and enrolled in Job Corpes. I left for job corp to another area of the state and did not contact her when leaving.
I did call her once I was in job corp to cehck on my son. I gave her a contact number incase of an
emergency. she called this number 1-2 times a day telling people it was in regards to my son. she showed up at the job
site one weeknd and wanted me to return home. after her second time of arriving I did leave and went home with her, after
only being in jobcorp for about 45 days.
Shortly after returning back from jobcorps egg donor was pregnant again, boy did I feel stupid. About 6
months later we had to move into an apartment as the trailer park we lived in was sold to a devoloper. We moved into
an apartment closer to were I worked. My Daughter was born shortly after moving into the apartment. We lived in the apartment
for about 9 months before things started to get rocky again and I wanted to leave. I felt a commitment to my children and
did not want to leave them. I had met someone that shared a lot of the same interests as I and eventually left.
I moved into my own apartment. Within 2 months the egg donor was moving in with me as she followed
me again and told me the children were crying and upset because there dad was gone. I felt extreme guilt and let her return.
We lived in my little apartment for a very short time as it was only a 1 bedroom. we moved to a 2 bedroom in the same complex.
About 2-3 months after moving we decided to attend a school to hopefully further our education, we picked
the same school and same same class.(actually the school only offered one class) but we attended it together.
after completing school she started working on the swign shfit as one of Microsofts warehouse's(I had already
been working there for a few years on days). Shoertly after here starting work she met yet another guy that she started screwing
around with and was hiding trying to hide it from me.
She was starting work at 3PM and not getting home until 3-4AM in the morning. I worked in the same building
and knew her shift ended at 11:30. When I started questioning her she got very defensive and it erupted into an arguement.
Needless to say we seperated once again, she moved in with her sister who ironically had moved into the same complex we lived
in. I move back in with my parents.
This was the last straw. We never got back together ever again. I met my wife a few months after this seperation
and have been with my sife since. My wife is very supportive of me and always has been.
The egg donor tried to re-enter my life by showing up at my parents and begging me to forgive her and telling
me things like, "her bed is always open, The kids are crying for you" and many other lies. I stood strong as I had regained
some of my self esteem because of support of my family and wife.
This was not the last ditch effort by the egg donor. There were several times she came crying to me for
help with the kids or one of her boyfriends. I hung up on her when it came to one of her boyfriends but there were many times
that I purchased food for the kids even though I was already paying child support.
A lifelong friend of mine and I got an apartment together and within 2 wks the egg donor told me if I didnt
take my son she was going to put him into foster care as she was unable to handle him. She stated he was to out of control(he
was 4 years old at the time). I asked her to give me a week so I can make daycare and sleeping arrangemnts for him, she
gave me 3 days. she arrived with him and gave him a kiss on the forhead and walked away, no emotions at all from her. I
held my son in my arms for the rest of the night as he cried, yet she NEVER shed a tear for him. She had met her agenda, she
got rid of both the boys and had her little girl. Thats all she ever wanted.
My wife moved in with me about a month after we moved into the apartment and helped with my son.
